I will start by saying that it feels great to have fulfilled a long term dream. When I was 16 I had this crazy idea that I wrote in my "life plan" as a goal, and that was that I will have a doctorate degree before the age of 50. And what is a dream if we don't try to make it a reality? ...only a thought. I am so proud of what I have done. My parents didn't attend college, nor finish high school but my mother instilled in me a love for school and learning. She never doubted that I was going to attend college, neither did I. I was the first person in my family to graduate from high school, college, master and now doctorate. As the oldest I had the responsibility to be a role model, first for my siblings and cousins, then to my children.
When I decided to return to school in 2009, it was a tough road, as I was trying to cope with the heartbreak of a separation (in 2007) and impending divorce. School kept me grounded and awakened that warrior spirit that was dormant in me. I fell in love again...with a challenge.
During those four years I lost friends, I gained new ones, I changed jobs, saw my oldest daughter graduating college, my second daughter graduating high school, I was betrayed, I was offended, I was mistreated and I was also celebrated, but nothing derailed me from the path that I chose. No one was getting on the way of me reaching my goal. I had other women tried to make me feel guilty and they succeeded, but talking to one of my professors made me reaffirm that my kids were going to reap the benefits of my efforts. I lead by example, I strongly believe that you don't quit when things get difficult, you try harder. I once told the students at U Mass Bring Diversity and Leadership to Nursing program, 'When life squeezes you, you just give juice', and that's exactly what I did.
The doctorate degree is my dream no more, so now I need to start developing new dreams, new goals. Life is dynamic and we need to move at its rhythm. Inertia always scares me. Look what happens to stagnant waters...I am not sure what is awaiting for me out there, but believe me, I dream...and I dream big. I want to push my degree beyond its boundaries, I want to try new experiences, I want a new challenge, I want to discover new talents, and put them to use not for my own benefit, but to the benefit of many. I want to make a difference and I know I can.
I will leave this blog by encouraging everyone to remove the fear from the equation, and ask yourself "What will you do if you weren't afraid?" Don't be afraid of chasing a dream, challenge the stereotypes, challenge ideas, challenge your own thinking and your own abilities... Don't be afraid of exploring your greatest potential. We only get one shot at life, so we have the responsibility to make this a great experience...the best one we can imagine. Don't be an expectator of your own life...just live, and live big.
Believe in yourself....the results will surprise you, and you will be amaze how far you can get when you push beyond your limits.
Thank you for supporting me!
PS: I need to come up with a new title to my next blog. Any ideas?????